Different Points of View

Wednesday, November 17, 2004

The T.O.wel incident

The T.O.wel incident
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So yea, it happened on MNF. And the powers that be are guardedly apologizing to prevent this from blowing upfurther. T.O. hasn't, because there's no room in T.O.'s head for good sense. It's all taken up by his ego. Hismelon's gonna burst one day I tell ya..

But there are a slew of pundits on ESPN who are like "whats the fuss all about?" Don't you see much more provocative stuff by cheerleaders and the sexy adshawking merchandise?

They have a point. So do have the people who've shownumbrage. Is it really the right message to send to kids(yea kids watch MNF), that if a slutty desperate housewife offers herself up, you're supposed to go ahead and enjoy? Not exactly, you "the adult" may knowwhat you're doing and have the maturity to think aboutconsequences like a broken marriage and unwanted pregnancy(teenage and otherwise), but the majority of kids who hold T.O. up like he were God, do not.
So let me sum it up for the slow among you. "Its aboutthe kids, and not about YOU. So your adult value system must not apply."

Ignoring things like this is what causes family values to deteriorate. And you cannot get away from the argument by labeling it Puritan or stuck up or prudish, the issue still remains. If you have a teenage daughter and are a responsible father, you would know.
The basic problem is adults treat kids as adults and make judgements about things as if they were. Most of the time, they are not and have a long way to go beforethey are mature enough to handle messages like that. Sheesh,many ADULTS in this country can't get it, and I'm sure areprompted to do stupid things because they saw it onAlly McBeal or Desperate Housewives.

Freudian logic and other pop pyschology pandered onto the masses expounds that if you're confronted by temptation anddo the wrong thing knowingly, it is but natural and so you shouldn't suppress it and so you do the wrong thing and then ignore it and move past it and pretend it never happened. If America truly wants to tackle the issues of broken marriages, kids hating their parents, unwanted pregnancies etc., it needs to take a good hard look at where we've come since the 1950s etc and address things like this head on.

The argument that it happened in the Puritanic days too is moot, since the real point is that it was not considered OKAY then. It should never be considered OKAY.

Therein lies the basis for family values and the reasonwhy this issue is so personal to many people.

ps> Maybe George Bush's moral, religious and self-righteousAmerica won't put up wih this, and hence the public meaculpas.. Okay, I'll stop being Oliver Stone..

pps> And if ABC is really apologizing, why do they keepairing it on all its ESPN channels? They didn't even botherto fuzz up the risque parts! Hypocrisy at its finest.

ppps> Another thing making the self-aggrandizing pundits dowhat they do, is because they can't appear unhip, uncool andun*dangerous*. They're in it for football-fan-adulation, notthe parents. Another case of the self-serving media.

pppps> And Coach Dungy, much as I respect your coaching ability,I disagree with your racial characterization of what happened.I'm not white or black, I'm brown. And part of the reason whythere hasn't been more emancipation, equality etc. etc. is thatblack want to stay black. They dont want to become an equal citizen. They want equal rights and rights to their blackness.Its fine to honor your heritage, but dont walk around bruisingsociety with your black angst and coloring everything whether itmerits it or not. You can't move forward, we can't move forward.

How can I stop viewing you as black if you don't?? I wish the African American collective would get that. And role models like you should get this and step up. Just say you don't want your kids watchin this, isn't that enough?

It should be.



The Winning Gene: An NFL Opinion Piece


The Winning Gene
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by A Football Ignoramus

Okay, let me preface this whole editorial by saying I know far less about football than most aficionados. But, I have the temerity to think that I have a bit of common sense, hence the bravado in penning this piece.

It has been a good season full of revelations and disappointments, prima donnas to poseurs. Rather than recyclewhat has been said already, here are a few not so common points to ponder.
Here's my easy-to-say-not-so-easy-to-do formula: Pick guys with enough talent. (not superstars, but if you get onegreat). Pick guys who will buy into your system. Pick guys who will listen to you. (hint: avoid big egos) Pick guys who will play each other and for the team concept. Boost their confidence, reinforce football basics and values, remind them of their strengths and and let them play within themselves and have fun. Imbue your team with that in every sinew and you've got the Winning Gene.

OK? Now let's take a trip around the league.

Parcells. Shut up about getting him to start Drew Henson. Is it offense the reason they're losing. Hell no! There'sno D in Dallas, the Cowboys this time. (the Mavs look way better than last year!) Aikman looks like he has an axeto grind with Henson. And other than Big Ben, all other rookies and first year QB's have stunk it up royally. Bill,please see what you can do to set the Dallas D right again?! Please??

Joe Gibbs. Wow. Another legendary figure come back to revisit the good ole days? Uhh.. not so much. This is more likeJordan in Washington than Jordan part deux with the Bulls. With a fat almost Yankee like payroll by offseason shopper Dan the-wealthy-man Snyder, the 'Skins prove yet again that spotting talent and building team chemistry are really what people should pay money for. The overpaid running back (and corner, excuse me Champ) didn't exactly put the team on his *cough* back and take them to a winning season.

That is why I think Bill Belichick is great at spotting, developing and motivating talent. I mean, come on.. how many people have heard of Givens, Branch, Brown, Patten, etc. etc. Not to speak of nonsuperstars Kevin Faulk andAntowain Smith. The have a killer D, no doubt.. but these average bunch of guys on offense have been no less clutch!They are about as talented as James Thrash, Todd Pinkston and Freddie Mitchell and the Philly RBC (running backcommittee) of a year ago. Yet, the Iggles couldn't break through, and the Pats have got two in three years.

Are you paying attention, coaches around the league? Its not boot-camp-Coughlin-style, nor is it loving-discipline-Gibbs-style, but just figuring out what makes your players tick and working it to results. Yea, youhave to have a base level of talent, but then you have to go Phil Jackson zen master on 'em if you want results. A bitof Parcells-ian fear wouldn't hurt either.

John Fox is another coach that gets it. Although the D has tailed off a bit (injuries and spending way too much time on the field have something to do with it.) Yes, Davis is a good back but I kinda figure he's got Eddie George disease whichisn't going to get any better. One thing keeping him running hard is Foster breathing down his neck... And I've always thought the world of Jake Delhomme. Yea he throws 1 or 2 interceptions, but then he throws 2 or 3 TDs a game. I'll take that, and he's only bound to get more efficient when the running game comes back.

Another Common Mistake: If your QB's nerve or arm becomes dodgy (that's shaky and unsure for those of you that don't knowBrit), you immediately pull it back? You have *got* to work thru nerves and strike a rhythm with your wide receivers. Anew veteran QB should get some of the same leeway that a rookie would. Hey, he's new here! But, if you keep pulling backyour plays and let your trust in your QB (read => his confidence) deteriorate, then you end up with a Drew Bledsoe. GodAlmighty, what a waste. Defense alone gets you only so far, not even Belichick can win with only defense. (Don't bringup Baltimore, they're probably closest to disproving the rule?
And, if you're blessed with a genuine superstar like Manning or Culpepper, make sure your defense is clutch. Hey, its notthat expensive to build a good defense. Just look around the league! Teams like Philly and Tampa are allowed to absolvethemselves by taking back players like Jeremiah Trotter, Hugh Douglas and the latest mea-culpa-in-public the Dexter Jackson signing.

I buy into John Van Gundy's philosophy: Most of the time, the key thing that separates winners from losers are "their habits". How you prepare (mentally and physically), how you build confidence in yourself by delivering on your promisesto yourself. How you play within yourself and play as a team... yeah... cliches, but none more true.

There are a few mysteries, however. If Belichick can coach an average team to a championship, why can't his guru Parcells?He did it last year, to a degree.. and isn't Parcells Year 2 with a team usually improve over the first one? Maybe he alienated more people than he knew by tossing Q (Quincy Carter) like a used dish rag. Maybe the Parcellsian ego blockedit out.

Michael Vick. I gotta say it: Until he shows me he feels comfortable throwing first, I'm not buyin. One or two throwsa game almost exclusively to Alge Crumpler don't make him a great QB. Tom Jackson can continue to drool over Vick. I, personally, don't like a team with three running backs and no QB. Mora is being as sensitive as he can to shield Vick from all the scrutiny, but hey.. you either got football IQ.. or you don't. You know which way I'm leaning about Vick.

Terrell. Talkin the smack and backin it up. Boy Nicolette Sheridan must've felt nice. The perks of being a prima donna. Ishe crazy? Or crazy like a fox? You decide. Just wait for the offseason ad deals. I see many T.O. shoes.. and you'll even be able to buy them at TerrellOwens.com.

Peace out.